White House staff secretary Rob Porter’s ex-wife Jennie Willoughby wrote about her experience in an abusive relationship on a blog post titled “Why I Stayed” in late April 2017.
However, she didn’t name names in the 362-word piece, she also deconstructing several of the misconceptions — Why not leave right away? Didn’t you see he was violent before getting involved? — physical abuse survivors experience while trying to describe the complexity and pain of a terrifying marriage.
Willoughby wrote, “Everyone loved him. People commented all the time how lucky I was. Strangers complimented him to me every time we went out. But in my home, the abuse was insidious. The threats were personal. The terror was real. And yet I stayed.”
She went on to write, “Abuse is indifferent to education level, socio-economic status, race, age, or gender.”
The old post from 2017 is receiving the attention of many this week. Porter who tied the knot with Willoughby back in 2009, was the husband described on the blog revealed the Daily Mail.
As we have previously reported that Willoughby and Porter’s first former wife Colbie Holderness had informed the FBI about their ex-husband’s abusive behavior. The abuse allegations cost him his position as he resigned yesterday after his two former wives come forward with the accusations.
In an interview with CNN’s Anderson Cooper, Willoughby expanded on her writing on Thursday night. She told Cooper, “That’s a question I get asked a lot, ‘Why did you stay if he was such a quote-unquote monster.’” She said, “And the reality is he’s not a monster. He is an intelligent, kind, chivalrous, caring, professional man. And he’s deeply troubled and angry and violent. I don’t think those things are mutually exclusive.”
Attention to Willoughby’s post on social media has exploded.